It’s Not the Bag. It’s the Energy — A Little Thought on Femininity

I saw a video the other day of a girl breaking down her outfit: Miu Miu lenses, Skims top, Uggs, Juicy Couture bag, and saying that no one where she lives gets it. Everything on her was trendy. But the comments?

“All that and it still gives H&M.”

Harsh… but kind of true.

And it made me think. You can wear every logo in the book, but if the energy isn’t there, it just shows.

It’s not about the bag. It’s about how you wear it. And how you style it.

It’s about the confidence. The posture. The vibe.

People have told me I’d look good in a trash bag, and I’ve learned to believe it. Not because I’m full of myself, but because I’ve realized that style is not about the clothes. It’s about you.

Zendaya on her day off is still Zendaya. She doesn’t stop glowing just because she’s in sweatpants.

You have to know how to carry yourself. Know what makes you feel powerful, and let that speak.

This is where femininity comes in.

Because when we talk about “looking expensive” or “put together,” the pressure always falls on women.

You’re supposed to be perfectly styled, but never too much. Luxurious, but not loud. And if your style leans hyper-feminine — bows, gloss, glam — people are quick to call it cheap.

But femininity isn’t weakness. And it definitely isn’t defined by what others think is tasteful.

To me, femininity is energy. It’s the way you look at yourself in the mirror and like what you see. It’s learning to love your body, knowing how to dress it, how to feel good barefaced, how to let your skin breathe without feeling like you have to hide.

In my life, I’ve found femininity in the little things.

In wearing my earrings. In taking care of my hair.

In soft gestures. In slowing down. Breathing.

Walking through the world like I belong in it.

And that’s just what I’ve found. It might be completely different for you. And that’s the point.

Because femininity isn’t quiet. It doesn’t need to whisper to be powerful. It can be a red lip on a regular day or a sleek bun for errands.

Whether you’re in bows or boots, a bodycon or a blazer, it’s all about intention.

About owning your look. About showing up as yourself.

And just to be clear, it wasn’t the Juicy bag or the Uggs or the Skims top that made her look “cheap.” It was the way it all came together. The energy wasn’t matching the clothes. And that’s what people picked up on.

Because femininity isn’t the problem. It’s how the world reacts to it when it’s not wrapped in the right kind of confidence.

That’s why real style is not about what you wear. It’s about how you show up in it.

And that’s what makes you look expensive. Not the price tag, but the energy behind it.